It?s been said that the sweetest sound to a person?s ears is the sound of their own name. I believe it. When someone remembers my name it makes me feel good – I feel valued. If someone consistently doesn?t remember my name I can feel slighted and very unimpressed!
?Most people, including myself, often claim to be bad with names. Yet I?ve found that just a little bit of effort can make a big difference in the name game. Here are a few of my tricks:
1. Once you learn the person?s name, repeat it 3-4 times within the next few minutes: “Where do you work, Elvin?” and “How did you find your way to ACC, Elvin?” and “Elvin, that is one sweet pair of penny loafers you?re wearing!” and finally, “Hey Ray! Have you met Elvin yet?”
?2. In your mind associate their name with an appropriate adjective. Like if Elvin happens to be a real hyper kind of dude – think “Enthusiastic Elvin”. That?s called a mnemonic device. Try it (but keep it to yourself, especially if your mnemonic device is “Egghead Elvin”).
?3. Write it down; grab a pen and jot their name down on your bulletin. Memory retention improves big time if you write it down then review it a few times in the next week.
?4. Admit when you?ve forgotten a name and ask again. I know it?s a little embarrassing, but we?ve all been there so humble yourself, admit your brain burp and ask again!
?5. Check out: http://www.acchurch.org/family/ (Click on Photo Directory, then check the back of your Sunday bulletin for the user name and password to get into the directory.) This is a very helpful place to spend some time. If you attend ACC regularly but aren?t in the directory yet, we will have a photographer in the lobby by the fireplace this Sunday, February 17. Stop by and say “cheese!”
One of the best qualities of ACC is our family feel. We need to remain intentional in loving each other; we need and desire authentic community. It begins with learning names. Admit it – you love it when people remember your name. Now return the favor – each Sunday hang out in the lobby, grab a cup of coffee and make others feel valued!