Complaining in the Church

We need to be dead serious about living out our faith as a church, so that we will shine like stars in the universe. That was Paul’s challenge to the church in Philippi. That is our challenge as well. One specific application: Do not complain. A complaining church is NOT a shining like a star church. (See Philippians 2:12-14)

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I am extremely grateful that there is not a complaining spirit at ACC. We have enjoyed much unity and peace in the last three years.

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But, what do you do if you do have a complaint? Can you never disagree with leadership? Can you never express a dissenting opinion? Is there no legitimate way to articulate that something at church is bugging you?

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Let me share some random thoughts –
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?•?It is never right to complain to others who are not going to be part of the solution; never belly ache to just whoever will listen in the lobby. You need to go to whoever will be key to a possible solution – whoever is responsible.

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•?Before you ever open your mouth take the time to evaluate your issue. Are you being selfish? Is your concern merely a matter of your own personal preference? Maybe you’re just in a bad mood?? It might be best to just let it go – remain quiet.

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•?Complaining is different then constructive criticism. Complaining is typically demanding, rude and self-centered. Constructive criticism / negative feedback should be done gently, humbly and privately. Attitude is everything!

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•?Anonymous negative feedback is cowardly and wrong. I made it a policy early in my ministry life to first look for a signature before reading a note – if it’s unsigned, it goes straight into my trashcan – unread. If you have something to say – own it.

Leadership is inherently stressful, difficult and often lonely. That’s not a complaint – it’s simply a fact. You in positions of leadership know that it’s true! Many of our leaders at ACC are volunteers – people who have stepped up to the plate and taken serious responsibilities onto their own shoulders. Let us continue to commit ourselves to being supportive of our leaders and be respectful when we disagree.

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Peace,
?Dave

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