Random Thoughts from an Oft-Frazzled Mom

Earlier this week, I was awoken by my mom (who lives with us), getting up at 5:10AM, and thus waking everyone else up, quickly followed by one daughter having a tantrum about subtraction and another completely indecisive about what to have for breakfast.   I actually didn’t get upset and was very calm and quiet, which admittedly in these situations, can be somewhat unusual.  Perhaps I can blame it on not being fully awake; perhaps I can attribute it to the quiet prayers I was saying over and over “Lord, help me be patient. Lord, help me be patient”.  I’d like to think it was the latter.
So, this situation and my reaction, or lack of reaction, made me think of the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:25-26), of which patience is the fourth virtue listed.  It also made me think of the phrase “patience is a virtue”, which is actually not found in the Bible.  According to the website phrases.org, the phrase “patience is a virtue” became popular around the time that Chaucer wrote “The Canterbury Tales” (between 1387 and 1400), and was first used in the United States around 1724.  Just a little useless trivia.
But, the Bible does have many references as to the importance of patience.  My favorite is found in Romans 12:12, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer”.  I know Paul didn’t have parenting in mind when he wrote this, but what parent can’t relate with it?  The hope that your child will straighten up and fly right?  Patient when they afflict you with messy rooms, talking back, and spilt milk?  And faithful in your prayers for your child.
I sometimes wonder where that patient, calm person in her 20’s disappeared to.  I know it was sometime after these little people called “children” entered my life.  I love my girls.  In the big scheme of life, I think that sometimes we really need to be reminded about how unimportant the little things are.  Milk can be cleaned up.  It’s OK to wear a Mario Brothers t-shirt every day.  Subtraction can always be done later.  The most important thing to me about raising my girls is that they establish a love and faith in Jesus as their Savior and servants hearts.   Parenting is not easy, but it is the most important thing that we do, whether you parent your own child, or are a parent figure to someone else’s children.
A friend shared this quote on her Facebook page the other day, and I find it to be so true:   “In a woman’s life, there are few things, if any, that rival the title, “Mom.” Initially motherhood feels like an awkward fit, but in time, it feels more like the favorite sweater you refuse to take off, despite the fact that it’s unraveling in places and has a few choice stains.” — Nicole Nordeman
God is always faithful and loves His children.  I wish you peace in parenting.
Guest blogger: Kris Milashus